Is love still a deciding factor on whether or not to have sex?
He Says: Sure, but not always.
Personally, I believe that love should be present, if even to a certain degree, for two people to have sex. However, some guys would definitely think otherwise. Put simply, sex is sex. It really shouldn’t matter if you love the girl or not, as long as you get to do it with her. This kind of mentality of course is usually what breaks the hearts of many girls out there.
Time and again, it has been said that for women, sex will always involve emotions. It may start off as a mere method of satisfying one’s urges, but it will still end up with the girl wanting more than just physical release. Ultimately, is love still a deciding factor on whether or not to have sex? For guys, not always. Some gentlemanly types out there would still say love is important, but more and more out there are saying that love can just be an “add-on” to sex. While this may be an unfortunate phenomenon among guys, one can take refuge in the idea that even with this line of thought, they come around eventually; it just takes time.
She Says: Definitely.
Love is what makes sex something more than just a simple, meaningless physical release. As human beings, we are subject to physical desires and passions. What sets us apart from animals is the ability to draw the line between human want and civilized choice. Sex is a sacred act, an act that should be shared by two people who love each other and are attracted to each other not just physically. Deciding to have sex not out of love but out of mere carnal desire makes human emotion – which sets us apart from other lower creatures – rather pointless and nonexistent. Also, love makes the act of sexual intercourse all the more tender and special to the parties involved. Without love, sex becomes a hollow act, a task quite similar to eating or taking a bath – which of course, it shouldn’t be.